Forgive or Forget?

[morrigirl]

Folk wisdom tells us we need to either forgive or forget.

Since I find it very difficult to forgive I usually opt to forget. Of course, I don't ACTUALLY forget. Rather, I choose not to think about the specified occurences when going forward.

Which method do you prefer?

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[skoriaan.livejournal.com]

Both. And Neither.

Forgiving is hard. And takes time, for me. But Forgetting, seems counterproductive. I think forgiveness is better, but what about those cases where one can't? It's my inability to forgive, or forget that kept me from being friends with Clark B. for....years. Still, I haven't really forgiven him, and the offensive act is no longer relevant. I havn't forgotten..but it being irrellavent, makes the forgivness seem a moot point. And we don't talk.

I think Forgiveness is my prefered method. Forgetting to me seems like it would lead to a stagnation, and lack of learning (on my part).

But, I think I do a bit of what you do as well.

Things are never just black and white are they. Shades of gray...

M.