All Your Sisters - SCN
May. 26th, 2003 12:00 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
morrigirlToday I've been thinking about girls. I've been thinking about girlfriends. Girlfriends who fight over boys. And their incredible ability to continue loving each other despite the fact.
I don't know if any of that makes sense, but I reflect on my relationship with Gayle as an example. Gayley and I have both ALWAYS liked Clark. I think both of us were always trying to land him in some way. I think we still are. But...I dunno, when it came to Clark I never felt intimidated by Gayle ya know? I knew that her reasons for liking him were her own and her relationship with him was unique, and that she never made any move on him as a malicious action towards me. And the same is true in reverse.
And above all, the two of us had a friendship that he simply wasn't a part of. Just as each of us had a unique relationship with him, we also had a unique relationship with each other. And rather than being this evil love triangle, which in the beginning it definitely had the potential to become, it grew into this grouping of three related but not identical friendships all separate from one another.
When Clark fucked us over, Gayle and I ran to one another. Because we both knew what it was like to be fucked over by Clark, and to still love him desite the fact. Feelings that could have initially killed our friendship before it even began, in the end wound up bringing us closer together I think.
And I think this is a female thing. I dunno many guys who commune with each other the same way. I think there's more competiton among males. It's this caring and compassion that girls show to each other that formed the base of my whole "befriend the enemy" philosophy. You must always become friends with the ex-girlfriend or ex-lover, or other potential love interest because these women will feed you information about the man who has his eye on you. And they will protect you from him.
Girls don't bad mouth boys out of malicious hate, they do it to warn other girls, in my experience anyway. We don't want others to go through what we went through. We want others to learn from our mistakes.
It's pretty beautiful if you ask me.
I don't know if any of that makes sense, but I reflect on my relationship with Gayle as an example. Gayley and I have both ALWAYS liked Clark. I think both of us were always trying to land him in some way. I think we still are. But...I dunno, when it came to Clark I never felt intimidated by Gayle ya know? I knew that her reasons for liking him were her own and her relationship with him was unique, and that she never made any move on him as a malicious action towards me. And the same is true in reverse.
And above all, the two of us had a friendship that he simply wasn't a part of. Just as each of us had a unique relationship with him, we also had a unique relationship with each other. And rather than being this evil love triangle, which in the beginning it definitely had the potential to become, it grew into this grouping of three related but not identical friendships all separate from one another.
When Clark fucked us over, Gayle and I ran to one another. Because we both knew what it was like to be fucked over by Clark, and to still love him desite the fact. Feelings that could have initially killed our friendship before it even began, in the end wound up bringing us closer together I think.
And I think this is a female thing. I dunno many guys who commune with each other the same way. I think there's more competiton among males. It's this caring and compassion that girls show to each other that formed the base of my whole "befriend the enemy" philosophy. You must always become friends with the ex-girlfriend or ex-lover, or other potential love interest because these women will feed you information about the man who has his eye on you. And they will protect you from him.
Girls don't bad mouth boys out of malicious hate, they do it to warn other girls, in my experience anyway. We don't want others to go through what we went through. We want others to learn from our mistakes.
It's pretty beautiful if you ask me.
