The Mish Mash
Aug. 18th, 2003 12:21 amI'm sitting here watching The Dead Zone. Who'dve known that dorky little Anthony Michael Hall would become so...HOT?! I mean look at him, dude is built like a fucking football player! It's amazing what puberty can do to a guy.
Here's a random question: Why do we as a society think it's not okay to feel pain? Not that pain is enjoyable. Quite the opposite, pain hurts like a mofo and is anything but pleasant. But...it's part of life. If you exist at some point you will feel pain. So why do we find it so unacceptable? Why do we encourage people to hide it? If anything it's one of the few universal experiences. Pain is not an abnormality, it's a fact of life, and I don't think people should be made to feel ashamed for hurting.
I think our cultural reaction to pain only serves to heighten pain and more notably, depression. When a person is depressed they feel something is wrong with them at their core. Then society makes them feel even more defective by sending them the message that the pain they are feeling is wrong thus confirming the depressive's perception that there is something inherently wrong with him.
Just think how much easier it would be to hurt if society accepted and respected our pain? If we were not forced to smother and hide it? If it were okay to admit that you are hurting, and even that you may not know the cause of your pain? What if we were told that our pain was normal? Nothing to be ashamed of? I think we'd experience depression in a much different way. We wouldn't treat it as the death sentence we often think it is. We'd see that it is simply another facet of life, one that is normal, and that will eventually pass.
Here's a random question: Why do we as a society think it's not okay to feel pain? Not that pain is enjoyable. Quite the opposite, pain hurts like a mofo and is anything but pleasant. But...it's part of life. If you exist at some point you will feel pain. So why do we find it so unacceptable? Why do we encourage people to hide it? If anything it's one of the few universal experiences. Pain is not an abnormality, it's a fact of life, and I don't think people should be made to feel ashamed for hurting.
I think our cultural reaction to pain only serves to heighten pain and more notably, depression. When a person is depressed they feel something is wrong with them at their core. Then society makes them feel even more defective by sending them the message that the pain they are feeling is wrong thus confirming the depressive's perception that there is something inherently wrong with him.
Just think how much easier it would be to hurt if society accepted and respected our pain? If we were not forced to smother and hide it? If it were okay to admit that you are hurting, and even that you may not know the cause of your pain? What if we were told that our pain was normal? Nothing to be ashamed of? I think we'd experience depression in a much different way. We wouldn't treat it as the death sentence we often think it is. We'd see that it is simply another facet of life, one that is normal, and that will eventually pass.