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River of Dreams
Aug. 14th, 2003 04:17 amFirst order of business: Everyone welcome the latest Knoxian addition to the livejournal community ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
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Second, God blesslazurstzthmt for giving me the links to all the blaster repair ware. I successfully employed all of it this evening. And can I just say I love IT people? And I love people who know IT people.
I meant to write earlier but I started talking to my friend Mike online and got distracted. I can't ruminate and have witty repartee with a bud at the same time.
I think I've been pretty good to myself today. I slept till 3:00 PM and didn't feel guilty about it. I look at it this way, as long as my body is getting the 8 hours of sleep it needs to function properly, who gives a shit when I take them? Given the fact that I've no job, and no pressing engagements that I must attend to during the day, it's not like anyone is getting hurt if I sleep through it. Of course my mother would see it differently. She'd say it's inherently unhealthy to sleep all day long. I disagree. It is the rigid idea that we must be awake and productive during the daylight hours that makes us unhealthy when we act otherwise.
I'm coming to terms with the fact that not all advice is correct, that I can determine what's right for me, and that I don't have to feel bad if people disapprove of the things that make me happy. I think this is a very healthy way to exist.
So...I came back to the idea of attachment last night. I started to wonder what the point is of getting attached to anything. Why do we get attached to things? What good does it do? If you look at it from an evolutionary stand point, attachment makes sense: it helps the species to survive. Mothers must feel some attachment to their young or else they won't feed and protect them. Attachment on a very base level is required for survival.
But in today's modern world, is attachment necessary? Some will say "Well of course it is. It's been proven that humans need touch, and companionship and friendship in order to function properly." True, but that's not what I'm talking about. One can recieve the love of another person without becoming emotionally attached to the person or becoming dependent on their love. One can have a friend and not be emotionally chained to that friend. Though we think of attachment as a necessity in interpersonal relationships, it is possible to have relationships void of attachment.
More often than not in modern society attachment is linked to ownership. We attach because we want something to stay with us, to be ours. We attach to spouses because we want to be their one and only, we attach to friends because we want to keep them. Emotional attachment becomes a binding contract, an agreement that people will stay with one another, own one another.
I can see this in my very speech patterns. I refer to friends as My Deepa, My Tina, My Gayley. With one word I assert my ownership over those dearest to me.
What's strange is, we attach ourselves to people because we're afraid we will lose them if we don't. But the fear of loss in and of itself doesn't fully blossom until we form an attachment. It's this evil emotional rollercoaster, the purpose of which I've yet to figure out. What's the point of creating a cycle of fear and dependence between people?
Wait...I think I just found my answer.
Dependence on others is what enables society to thrive. Society itself is just a series of systems designed to help people function, none of which are capable of running without workers. We would all be lost without the purely physical support of our communities, therefore we have to have an inborn desire to seek and offer assistance to one another. It is our fear that we will not be cared for in our time of need that allows us care for others. If we care for others they will care for us. That purely physical/social interdependence is at the very core of attachment. Without attachment, no one would help each other, we'd all be dead meat.
Yay! I figured out attachment!
I was gonna write about some more stuff but...Wow. I'm impressed with myself. I think I'm gonna give myself a pat on the back, and give my mind a rest until tomorrow night. Ta ta.
silent_tSecond, God bless
lazurstzthmt for giving me the links to all the blaster repair ware. I successfully employed all of it this evening. And can I just say I love IT people? And I love people who know IT people. I meant to write earlier but I started talking to my friend Mike online and got distracted. I can't ruminate and have witty repartee with a bud at the same time.
I think I've been pretty good to myself today. I slept till 3:00 PM and didn't feel guilty about it. I look at it this way, as long as my body is getting the 8 hours of sleep it needs to function properly, who gives a shit when I take them? Given the fact that I've no job, and no pressing engagements that I must attend to during the day, it's not like anyone is getting hurt if I sleep through it. Of course my mother would see it differently. She'd say it's inherently unhealthy to sleep all day long. I disagree. It is the rigid idea that we must be awake and productive during the daylight hours that makes us unhealthy when we act otherwise.
I'm coming to terms with the fact that not all advice is correct, that I can determine what's right for me, and that I don't have to feel bad if people disapprove of the things that make me happy. I think this is a very healthy way to exist.
So...I came back to the idea of attachment last night. I started to wonder what the point is of getting attached to anything. Why do we get attached to things? What good does it do? If you look at it from an evolutionary stand point, attachment makes sense: it helps the species to survive. Mothers must feel some attachment to their young or else they won't feed and protect them. Attachment on a very base level is required for survival.
But in today's modern world, is attachment necessary? Some will say "Well of course it is. It's been proven that humans need touch, and companionship and friendship in order to function properly." True, but that's not what I'm talking about. One can recieve the love of another person without becoming emotionally attached to the person or becoming dependent on their love. One can have a friend and not be emotionally chained to that friend. Though we think of attachment as a necessity in interpersonal relationships, it is possible to have relationships void of attachment.
More often than not in modern society attachment is linked to ownership. We attach because we want something to stay with us, to be ours. We attach to spouses because we want to be their one and only, we attach to friends because we want to keep them. Emotional attachment becomes a binding contract, an agreement that people will stay with one another, own one another.
I can see this in my very speech patterns. I refer to friends as My Deepa, My Tina, My Gayley. With one word I assert my ownership over those dearest to me.
What's strange is, we attach ourselves to people because we're afraid we will lose them if we don't. But the fear of loss in and of itself doesn't fully blossom until we form an attachment. It's this evil emotional rollercoaster, the purpose of which I've yet to figure out. What's the point of creating a cycle of fear and dependence between people?
Wait...I think I just found my answer.
Dependence on others is what enables society to thrive. Society itself is just a series of systems designed to help people function, none of which are capable of running without workers. We would all be lost without the purely physical support of our communities, therefore we have to have an inborn desire to seek and offer assistance to one another. It is our fear that we will not be cared for in our time of need that allows us care for others. If we care for others they will care for us. That purely physical/social interdependence is at the very core of attachment. Without attachment, no one would help each other, we'd all be dead meat.
Yay! I figured out attachment!
I was gonna write about some more stuff but...Wow. I'm impressed with myself. I think I'm gonna give myself a pat on the back, and give my mind a rest until tomorrow night. Ta ta.
