Tales of the Infinitely Lovable

[morrigirl]

There are people in this world who you can't help but fall madly, head over heels in love with. You can't help it and neither can anyone else. These individuals have the personality or the magnetism or the mystery required to cast a spell over everyone they meet. Men throw themselves at their feet, women swoon in their presence. And I'm convinced we all know at least one person who fits this bill. So, tell me, of all the people you know, who are the ones that consistently inspire such devotion? As always, feel free to post anonymously. List as many people as you want, and remember that not all people who inspire love are nice. Sometimes it's the real meanies who get all the love. I would start off by posting my answers, only I haven't really thought of them yet. I'll ponder a while and get back to you. In the mean time...GO!

Comments

[gender-euphoric.livejournal.com]

I'm like the opposite of that.
But I'm still lovable. How does that work?

[ninquark.livejournal.com]

Hmm... you're IP-logging... I can't post anonymously without you knowing who I am. ;)

The concept you're giving is actually one I'd never really thought about or heard of until Knox, and even then, I've yet to meet anyone who consistently inspires devotion, though I have met people that consistently induce lust and desire.

[morrigirl.livejournal.com]

Since I don't care about IP addresses and have never tried to identify someone by referring to them I've never viewed them as much of a threat to anonymity. That and I have no clue how to disable it.

[morrigirl.livejournal.com]

Probably the same way that I can treat everyone like shit and still have them love me afterward :-D

[satinalien.livejournal.com]

The first person I thought of is Heathcliff, from Wuthering Heights.

[gender-euphoric.livejournal.com]

Oh I thought of someone. This girl Jill DeWert, a tiny, blue-eyed white blonde kewpie doll-type I went to elementary school with. I named my Cabbage Patch kid after her.

[morrigirl.livejournal.com]

I've never read Wuthering Heights though I feel I should. It just happens to be my mother's least favorite book in all existance, one she never misses an opportunity to lay into. I'm sure that has a lot to do with why I have steered clear of it.

[morrigirl.livejournal.com]

Aw, that's so cute!

[ninquark.livejournal.com]

Hmm... after much thinking, I can list the people I've heard other people describe in this way, mostly because I've actually talked to these individuals about it before:

Heather Holmquest
Jasmine Jobe
Loren Lindgren
Mary Morales
Wesley Williams
Leigh (I don't remember her maiden name...)
Clint Forney (he inspires a lot of devotion)

Notice how many of these people have alliteration in their names. I honestly don't think this is coincidence. Alliteration in names makes people more memorable, and perhaps more attractive.

Before college, I had never met anybody who inspired people in this way.

[ninquark.livejournal.com]

Yeah... Heathcliff really fits. A nasty human being that commands devotion effortlessly from birth.

[skoriaan.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I wonder. What would it take to inspire people in that way. Is it a natural thing? A personality trait that can be trained? Pheromones?

I have a few people in mind, but they are mostly from my view, and not necessarily across the board as you suggested above. I just know who I've gotten that vibe from personally, who inspired my devotion.

M.

[morrigirl.livejournal.com]

I think for some people it's inborn. They just have that nebulous "it" quality that makes them irresistable. And "it" could be any number of things: amazing sense of humor, great personality, animal magnetism, enviable talent, etc. etc. ad nauseum. There is no one thing that is irresistable to everyone in and of itself. It's a weird combination of traits and how those traits are employed.

But, I also think is a quality that can be cultivated. I know people who have simply set out to become loved by everyone and have accomplished that goal. Hell, that was my goal in high school and I had it nailed by the end of freshman year. Being infinitely lovable isn't the same as being yourself, at least not for most people I don't think. Plus, what makes a person lovable in one social situation may make them reviled in another. I think when it comes to cultivating this type of love the key to it is observation; figuring out what makes other people lovable and then trying to emulate those qualities.

I've been trying to come up with my own list of infinitely lovable poeple and it's turning out to be way harder than I'd thought it would be when I first posed the question. I'm finding that the people I know who inspire the most love also inspire the most hate. They tend to leave trails of broken hearts behind them. As a result I can't say they are what I'd originally thought of as being infinitely lovable.

The closest I've gotten to my own ideal is a list a people who are infinitely likable; those individuals who everyone loves though not as passionately as indicated above. I can come up with loads of those -

Norman Golar
Gayle Holverson
Maureen Ryan
Agnes Csicsai Wanderer
Angie Moton
Geo Medina

I guess I asked a much tougher question than I thought I had.